How a morbidly obese takes a shower! 12.12.19
Jan 12, 2019
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2JC9Hxgk_Q

and I'm sorry but I've smelled but funk
on skinny people too so it is not just
the big people
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what can we talk about as a group like
what is something that would benefit all
of us and so as I was sitting there I've
had questions multiple multiple times of
bathing how does a how does a person an
obese person a 500 pound person 500 plus
pound even 450 plus how can they bathe
themselves and be clean so what I really
thought about that question because it
is one that even I even questioned
myself at times like how can a person
wash themselves and be clean and
sanitize their bodies and be fresh and
smell good and all the good things in
between and so I really thought about
this question and you know being an
obese person myself it makes sense for
me to be able to talk about this and not
to be offended or offensive to anybody
because I could never offend somebody
when I know that there's questions out
there that just people don't have the
nerve tip so with everything that I've
thought about I thought you know what
would be a better time to show you guys
kind of and talk you guys through my
shower routine to my routine after
shower and what I do for myself to help
myself say stay from getting rashes and
areas where there might be extra
moisture things that a lot of people
don't want to talk about because it's
embarrassing
and it is embarrassing it's not
something that is looked on and is like
yeah we got problems with our fat rolls
you know and oh my god I love you know
burning down
because it you know it's nice and moist
during it hurts I mean people don't
people don't want to talk about it but
people also weren't embarrassed to ask
like what can we do what are our there
are things to do to fix these things you
know I remember I was embarrassed to
even talk to my talk to her about it
like I was like I mean it's embarrassing
it is it is embarrassing especially as a
woman it's even more embarrassing
because as women we are looked on as
these people that need to smell fresh
and sweet and ready to
Yano mingle and it's like not all the
time but you know I mean it's not always
it's not always roses and men are not
either but you know it's just it's a
part of being a plus-sized person it is
and I'm sorry but I've smelled but funk
on skinny people too so it is not just
the big people no shame in the game so
and there's no holding back today we's
gonna talk about it all
so to start out when I get ready to take
a shower I make sure that I have
everything in the shower that I'm gonna
need because for me I don't want to be
having to get in and out of the shower
slipping falling it's happened one time
actually not too long ago oh what a mess
I went to go I don't even know what I
was doing to be honest with you
somehow I got stuck in the shower
curtain because we just have one of the
shower liners we don't have a shower
curtain I took that down a while back
because I don't like shower curtains
with the shower liner it's too much of a
mess when you've got kids so I just
eliminated that all together but somehow
I got stuck in the shower liner with my
foot and well there went the entire
shower liner lip right to the ground so
there I went sliding all out everywhere
so I mean luckily I caught myself with
the toilet so I wasn't as bad as it
probably could have been but I really
try to make sure that everything is in
my arms rage and that it's all where it
needs to be when I bathe myself for me
personally I have very very sensitive
skin so I can't use like the dove body
shampoo or honey dove body scrub suave
anything with like a perfume in it it's
really weird because this is what's
strange and it's gonna sound like a
contradict myself anything was like a
perfume in it I can't use it because
once I go and I start washing my
downstairs of a journal area yeah for
some reason even though I can rinse it
out as good as possible I for some
reason always have the feeling that
there's still something there and
eventually I start burning down there
and I I don't but I've always been septa
Ballou UTIs even when I was little I
used to love bubble baths whoo what kid
doesn't like a bubble bath
well besides Omar my child you know the
one that acts like a cat when you put
him in water um most children like
bubble baths well every time I would
take when I would end up with a UTI so
they had to stop giving me bubble baths
because of that now for me personally
with my kids well again exhale
Omar there with Ezra when she wants to
take a bubble bath I use baby shampoo
and I know that it's soft enough and
safe enough for her and also I can use
baby shampoo for my body scrub but and I
can wash all areas of my body and I'm
totally fine but if I use anything else
I start breaking out and I start itching
on my skin really bad and that's when I
noticed I start getting rashes
underneath my fat rolls I mean it gets
really bad and I'm I've only been able
to connect it with body soaps so since I
have changed to using just plain baby
soap I don't have that problem
whatsoever and it it cleans just the
same it's soap it's just made for you
know like sensitive skin so I used that
I use Johnson & Johnson's baby calm
I think it's chamomile and I smell about
and it just smells so good so that's
what me plus all of my kids now only we
have separate showers he has a stand-up
shower I have I shower with where the
kids shower reason being this because in
the show stand-up shower I don't fit
very well in the sliding door because
it's like one of those single door ones
that you can open and close I don't fit
very well in there and it was scraping
my stomach to get into it I'm like okay
if this is gonna hurt to take a shower
then just forget it I'm gonna go and
take a shower in the kids bathroom so
that's why I'm in that bathroom and it's
easier for me to move around in there
versus in the other one that's real like
stalky so Ollie has like his own body
soaps and all that stuff so we don't
have to worry about him using anything
different and so for body soap I use
baby Johnson and Johnson to wash myself
where I can't reach like my back or the
back areas back here I use which is and
I don't have it on me it's in the
bathroom but it's a scrub Foofa I had to
think about it for a minute because I
call it something else on accident and I
always want to call it that I just want
to call it a Fupa and I found out Fupa
is not the right word for it huh go
figure
so it's one of those foofa's that's
stuck on a stick and I use that to like
wash the back part of my back and wash
my arms you know and all of that stuff
around my neck then I just use my hands
because that's why God gave us hands and
I just watched the rest of my body in
all the areas because at least with my
fingers I can make sure that I get in
all the areas that really need to be
scrubbed clearly your body's got to get
scrubbed and then once it gets into the
areas where it's a little bit down
reagent areas I just hiked my leg up on
the side of the bathtub and I go to town
and I just scrub away um and also so now
I've gone to the point where I can reach
those areas with
and but there was a time where I could
not reach those areas with my hand and
so I also would use the Foofa on a stick
and I would use that to wash all my
vaginal and my butt area and all that
because I couldn't reach it and I need
to get it clean so that's what I did and
then once I'm completely done have
washed my whole body with soap then I
use my shower hose and I'm able to just
move it around and get underneath all of
my rolls and make sure everything is
clean hiked my leg back up on the
bathtub scrub it down there and rinse it
really good and then I'm done I have
never gotten to the point where I have
to sit down in my shower but there's
been a point where it was very very very
extremely hard to shower standing for
very long so I took very quick showers
and at that point that's when my husband
stepped in and started helping me bathe
because I couldn't do it was too much to
stand and wash my body it was it was
getting too much physically so my
husband stepped in and said hey you know
what this is why I'm here I'm your
husband let me help you and I will help
wash at these areas was I know they're
hard for you and I know you want to be
clean so he did help me for quite a
while to help wash me so that I was able
to still continue to be clean and now
I'm I'm capable of washing myself and
I'm so proud because that's another
proud moment for me that I have you know
I've been able to take that back and say
you know what no I can now bathe myself
again and that is a good feeling it's
it's a really bad feeling when you have
to give that up because that's part of
being a human is you know being able to
clean yourself and when you can't do
those things you feel so less of your
own self you know I just that's how I
felt um so then after I'm completely
done with my shower I come back into the
room and I dry myself down as best as I
can with the towel and then I just sit
on the edge of my bed and then
I use the handy dandy blow-dryer and
this thing is this poor thing is so old
I have had this thing since I was in
cosmetology school yeah that tells you
how long that's been but this little
Alexis she's been my baby and she works
mighty well and you just blow dry all
your parts like underneath your rolls
under here underneath all your rules is
very very very very important that you
get those areas is extremely dry because
if not what happens is the skin fold set
together and then as you're moving and
walking throughout the day it rubs and
then friction creates it to start
rubbing even more raw and then that's
when you end up getting in like those
yeast infections and burns and the smell
and everything that comes along with all
of that nastiness a pain so using a
blow-dryer is one of the biggest keys to
helping keep down the breakdown of your
skin and I have learned that over time
when I could not blow-dry my husband
blow dried me so it's always been
something that I have done for it's been
about the last I'm gonna say the last
year and year and a half that I have
started using this and it's been a
complete game-changer on you know
helping me not smell during the day
because I don't have any access moisture
because I've dried it all so what
there's nothing there for it to create a
smell so very very very big key is blow
drying blow drying everything under
every stomach roll under every roll
between your toes I mean you blow dry
every Creek of yourself if wherever you
know that there's skin that could fold
together yeah blow dry and why I say
toes is because there was even a point
when my feet were really swollen that my
toes were really close together and I
actually would break out in my between
my toes and they would
so bad that I remember having only take
towels and he would go in between my
toes and he would itch it so bad or
scratch it so hard because that's what
felt so good by the time he was done the
skin was so raw and bloody and just like
it was literally just meat in between my
toes because he rubbed it so raw but it
was I kept telling Rob Rob Rob because
of it so bad well you know when people
have seen its athlete's foot is no it
was not it was nitride athlete's foot
stuff it wasn't it was the same thing
that happens under my fat rules as it
did my toes because there was so much
moisture built up in there so it's very
very important blow dry your skin get it
as dry as you can before you move on to
the next step which is so here's a
little okay so before I jump if you end
up with like a yeasty rash okay
you take a shower you dry you do
everything you go out for the day you
come home you're like man I'm burning
really bad I feel like I've got a rash
underneath one of my rolls
so you go in the shower it's very
important you have to shower to clean
yourself if you have one of those type
of rashes because if not it isn't gonna
go away it's only gonna get worse
because you can't medicate on top of
something like that but once you're done
and you've cleaned yourself completely
up you dry yourself again use the blow
dryer then you use the handy dandy
desert in this stuff is magic like let
me tell you I can put this on little
rashes that I start under rolls on my
legs because sometimes my legs will get
a rash from my bottom stomach sitting on
it sometimes this stuff is amazing I put
it on and through the night by the time
I wake up in the morning it's gone like
no jokes so Desert Inn is very important
to keep when you're doing your shower
routine because sometimes that is
something you have to have on you I also
keep one in the car now you're gonna be
like well I thought you just said you
have to wash so if I'm in the car and I
know
that I'm starting to break out and I
know I'm not gonna be home for many
hours what I will do then is I carry
these and I will wipe that area with one
of the little white bees
I'll wipe that area really good and then
I will take a little tissue or something
and dry it and then I will apply it then
it will work because you're cleaning
your skin you're not just applying this
over the sweaty wet whatever is going on
down there then it's not gonna really
work but if you clean yourself first
with you know like an antibacterial
anything like that then apply then dry
it and then apply this you will see a
difference and it's not gonna hurt as
bad and it won't be able to continue to
really grow whatever is going on down
there because you took care of it so
that these two are big key things to
also keep in your car not just in your
shower stuff but in your car because
this is gonna be a must before you can
use of this so car products as well
shower well this one really you don't
have to use in the house because they'll
clearly you're gonna be at home you can
take a shower or whatever so this is
more of like on the go and the thing
that I like I got these from the dollar
store I have tons of these I bought like
seriously I probably have like 20 boxes
of these and they just so easy stick
them in your glove department stick or
yeah York loft Department stick it in
your little middle console stick it in
your purse put it in your diaper bag I
mean anything and literally that's so
little and it comes with ten so I mean
if you need more than just a couple you
have ten of these and they're not small
they're fairly nice size and it comes
with three ten packs so thirty total and
one lasting usually for a while so
that's just something nice to always
carry with you and the plus it has aloe
vera in it which a low also helps cure
skin breakdown so that's another really
good key why I picked these okay if you
have your itchy itchies and it's just
really itching on your skin under your
rules again you can use this is
well this is Walgreens brand in its
Monistat okay I didn't use this for
vaginal monastic vow gional cream or
anything like that I just buy a monastic
pack and I use the cream like this and I
put it on my in between my fat rolls if
there's like a major itch going on like
it's starting to break down and it's
itching really bad I will apply this and
this helps with the itching and it also
cures up that little hints of yeast rash
that's starting I use this and it works
just the same as anything else because
this Desert Inn is not gonna cure up a
yeast infection skin thingy whatever you
want to call it this will so if it's
something like where it's itching and
you kind of have it has like a little
bit of a smell I know TMI and it has a
little bit of a smell that's when you
want to use this product or something
similar to this if it's just a rash and
it's burning and you know that it's just
like the skins irritated this will work
then if you get to where I've gotten
before where the whole area of that fat
roll is just so broken down and it's raw
and it burns and it itches and it's just
making you miserable and then you notice
that it's oozing like I've had times
where I will look on the side of my
underwear and I will see that it my
wherever that rash is at is actually
losing out that's when you that's when
you got to get to the doctor and then
they will prescribe you this is what
they give me it's called nice statin
cream whew works amazing but as a big
girl I have to get more than just one
bottle because show you I can get this
thing open these bottles are not very
big and it does go a long way but not
not as long as you want to help me oh
very far so yes this is called nystatin
cream amazing stuff but I always request
three bottles when they give it to me
because you have to use it for well
mine's uh all the time things so I mean
I
have it on hand all the time because
even with me personally I take care of
my skin very well but I still get those
times when I break down because again
like I said my skin is very sensitive so
it will scream what it wants to scream
then if you're having really no issues
with your skin and you've dried your
skin you have no rashes nothing to put
any creams on or anything then if you
just apply a little bit of this this is
what works I put this under my boobs I
put this I put this under every roll I
put this stuff everywhere this stuff is
amazing and it's just cornstarch
you just get it from the grocery store
nothing special you don't have to use
baby powder you don't have to use any
type of bacterial powder cornstarch it
does the works so and I mean you get a
huge thing in this thing oh my god i buy
two a year and I swear and I use this of
every single shower like I mean cuz you
don't need very much you just need a
little bit enough stuff spreads so and
it doesn't stick to your skin but you
don't want to put this on and also like
use like it does a ten or something and
then put this on that becomes an issue
but if you don't have to use a cream
then cornstarch is the way to travel
because honestly it keeps me dry I don't
have any like sweating issues at all in
any of my roles and if I do I always
have a little bit of backup in my purse
so I can just kind of and it's good but
I never really have ever had an issue
with that so this is another must-have
if you're gonna use powder in between
your rules I would suggest it highly
then you use deodorant I'm sure
everybody uses it
no I use spray deodorant reason being is
because roll-on deodorant and pout like
the powder kind of deodorant I feel
doesn't on gimme right but the spray one
works and you can also spray a little
bit under your breast I wouldn't suggest
using the
it is a powder but it is kind of perfume
ish I guess you could say a little bit
um so I mean I if you have a rash on
there and you go and spray this stuff
it's gonna burn so I would not suggest
spraying it down in your rural area but
if you want to put it like under your
breasts obviously under your armpits
this is something really good and it
does help and I put a little bit
sometimes under my rules in my back and
stuff because it kind of just helps keep
it kind of fresh back there
so spray deodorant and then for your
potty area once you get your panties on
I jumped a little thing okay so once you
put your panties on as a woman I don't
know very many people I mean some women
maybe don't but as a woman I like to
keep fresh downstairs I really do
I don't like to ever have a reason to
feel like I stink have my underwears wet
anything like that I don't like it again
it gives you a more of a chance of
getting a yeast infection rashing down
there chub-rub burned because your
thighs are getting a little wet because
your underwear what yeah so this lady
right here is fan of wearing pads pretty
much all the time all the time because I
like them now I am NOT one that can wear
a oh my god what are those called a
panty liner yeah that's like putting a
band-aid on a giant no not even that my
god panty liners are an absolute good
no-go for me because I swallow the thing
up so I use always ultra thins
they're not thick at all so for me they
don't bother me to wear these honestly
they're very very thin but they're very
long and you don't have to have them
that long but for me I've just always
bought the same ones as I use for my
cycle so it doesn't make a difference
but I always wear a pad it just makes me
feel fresher because I can change them
throughout my you know when I'm going to
the restroom and stuff and they just
feel like cleaner
then once I put my pad on and stuff like
that
or before I put my pad on my underwear I
spray it down with some receive okay
I do not spray this on my pad that's
gonna go and touch my skin because again
like I've said before I'm very sensitive
and I I don't know and I don't want to
find out if I would get a reaction from
it so I spray this on my panties before
I put my hat on that way then it kind of
my pad kind of holds the smell in and
I'm already cleaned because I've taken a
shower and I changed my you know my pad
throughout the day so I'm constantly
having a smell of this in my panty area
because I keep that area smelling fresh
last but not lease I told you this is a
tea in my video last but not least I I
love body sprays but I don't my pet
peeve you guys I'm sorry I cannot stand
when somebody sprays body spray to cover
up a buttfucking smell dude if you stink
like butt just go wash it please do me
the favor just go just go it's not gonna
hurt you it's not gonna it's not gonna
burn go take a shower wash the funk away
and then spray now after I got that out
at the corner you take a shower you get
all nice and fresh you freshy then you
couldn't body spray yourself with some
spray this is one of my this was
lavender and amber refreshing mist with
essential oils and I got this one from
Target and it's only like four bucks
it's huge but they do have a smaller
bottle too that I put in my purse so
when I do my pad panty changes I can
spray it myself
yes this is I love this stuff I live by
this I have tons of perfumes that my
husband my lovely husband has bought me
um but I'm not gonna wear perfume every
single day put it on 20,000 times a date
like no I I don't take baths and perfume
a husband on the other hand he may take
a shower in his Cologne but no not me
hmm yeah not me but I love these because
they're you know you smell them but
they're not like really strong that when
you walk by some you're like
what is she doing yeah no that's not
that this is what it is so I would
suggest getting and finding something
that you really like but don't get
something that's really what can I say I
would not suggest getting something that
smells like flowers because when you try
and spray yourself with a flower smell
mixed with any other kind of smell
you're gonna get my god
but these actually I've noticed go very
well together so when I spray the two of
these at any given time it's not an
overpowering smell but honestly this is
and it doesn't have even though it's
lavender and amber it doesn't have a
like I don't even know how to say it but
it doesn't have like a flower I mean I
know I show it smells of flower butters
shows a fire but it really does not
smell like flower it's just it's got a
really good smell to it so when you
spray it you feel good about the way you
smell and not smell like a walking
flower farm
um but yeah that's you know that's
really it but I just as many times as
people have asked like Amy how do you do
this like could you please share with me
I'm like why don't I just think a video
like I'm sure there's more people than
just myself and a few handfuls of people
that I've asked me like I'm sure that
this is something that is commonly
questioned wondered and I'm the type of
person that will share any details with
you because I'm not afraid like I'm big
I'm fat I have to bathe I might as well
tell you guys how I do it right so
others might be able to pick up a couple
tips here and there um but yeah I mean
any questions you guys ever have don't
feel like you cannot come and ask me
email me question me if it's something
that I get a question a lot about hey
I'll make a video on it might as well
it's again not only just helping you but
I might be helping other people that
don't have the nerve to ask because of
embarrassing of thinking other people
wonder the same things so don't ever
feel like you should be
James or that you should feel shy
because maybe you have questions always
Phil right about asking because it's
your body and of course we are all human
we all bathe we all shower and you have
the right to ask so don't ever feel shy
to come and ask me any personal
questions I am here for you just like I
am an open book I want to be as
transparent as possible with you guys
and that is why I do the videos that I
do is to share these things with you
guys and to let you know that you're not
alone that there are many obese people
men and women that struggle with the
same things you're not the only person
that probably struggles with these same
exact issues that you do because I know
I do and I have and I still do so
everything that I have showed you today
are things that I use every single day
so with that I am going to close tonight
I hope you guys enjoyed and I hope this
video reaches the right people that need
to hear about bathing so take care I
will check in with you guys tomorrow
sweet dreams
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